Why is it so important for us to define success on our terms?
The answer is simple.
If you do not decide for yourself what your definitions of success are for you in all of the key areas of your life (emotional, intellectual, physical, social, environmental, financial, spiritual) you run the risk of being caught up in everyone else’s definitions of success.
How many of us look at other people’s success and are left feeling inadequate or less than because we don’t feel like we measure up?
I believe that we do this because we have not yet set our own definitions of what our success is to us, in our own lives and so our attention is easily taken and directed away from our own lives.
Tony Robbins says “energy flows where focus goes”. When we look at the success of another and then beat ourselves up for not being that version, our energy is somewhere that we have zero influence and therefore being wasted and not used where it would be most valuable.
Our energy is most valuable in our own lives. Take that energy and focus back. Let’s set that energy and focus to work in our own lives.
By setting those definitions for you in your life and becoming so focused on this, that you will not feel less than, because you in your purpose and power are working so hard on your own life that you don’t have space or time or energy to waste on feeling less than.
Is it easy?
Nope, it’s not going to be easy. Yes your habits and your inner critic are going to try and tell you that this is a pile of BS and it doesn’t work. It will say things like, it’s too hard, I cannot be bothered, what’s the point.
Maybe it feels too difficult emotionally to admit to dreams and ambitions you may not yet have admitted to or shared before.
Are you telling yourself you can’t, you are too busy, you are too old, it isn’t the right time?
Is someone else telling you it’s all a big waste of time?
Are you telling yourself that the success that you want is so small, it isn’t worthy of such big effort?
It doesn’t matter how big, how small, how crazy, how sensible, how easy or how difficult your versions may seem. It is all about you and not even a bit about anybody else’s view.
Your life, your rules.
Actively put the time into yourself and your life to define your rules, your values, based on your wants, your needs, your dreams and aspirations.
See your worth and how essential you are and why it is so important for you to define your life, for you, on your terms.
What does your best life look like for you in all of the key areas of life?
What would the best year of your life look like for you, in each of the key areas of life?
Answer these questions for you without comparing yourself to anybody else’s answers.
Without comparing yourself to anybody else consider what it is that YOU want.
What do you want?
A house with a garden?
To be out of debt?
To have a baby?
To get that promotion?
To become more spiritual?
To become more financially savvy?
To gain that qualification?
To just feel excited about life?
To improve your self-esteem?
To become a vegan?
To get comfortable using your voice?
To start your own business?
To take your existing business to the next level?
To grow your network?
To attend your first ever networking event?
To get through a day without feeling like shit?
To start saving?
Whatever it is that you want in your life, it is important to you and that is all that matters.
If you want it, you can have it. If you want it, make it happen.
Start living your life without trying to keep yourself within the invisible confides of a standard that is not the standard that you set for you and your life.
Your life, your rules.
You define your definition of success for you and then do everything in your power to make that definition your reality.
You can do this. It’s about empowerment.