My experiences

I have learned the hard way about the need to practice self-love and self-care. 

Having spent many years being totally focused on supporting others, not realising the effect it was having on me, the time came when I knew that something had to change.

As steps were taken to improve my family life, I realised that I had not been taking care of myself for a long time, physically or mentally. It was then that I set about educating myself about mental well-being, after which The Butterfly In Me was born.

The one thing I have learned is that you cannot under estimate the power of self-love and self-care in terms of mental health, and I want to share some simple tips on taking care of yourself.

The current situation places so much strain on us, when most of us lead a pressurised life at the best of times.  There could not be a better time to ensure that we are taking care of our own mental well-being.


One really simple way I allow myself some “me time” is to switch off from everything and relax in front of the TV.

  I like to pour myself a gin, cosy up under my blanket, light my candles and just switch off from everything. 

Friday night is my favourite, to celebrate getting through a busy week at work and I am sure I am not the only one.

I have recently come across the Danish concept of Hygge (pronounced hoo-ga), which completely aligns with my Friday night vibes.

Hygge is about experiencing cosiness and well-being through the simple things in life. 

This concept is so important to the Danes and is attributed as the reason that Denmark is always at the top of the list of the world’s happiest countries, despite their dark severe winters.

Blankets, hot drinks, fireplaces are all examples of living Hygge, but the Danes believe that candles are the most important part.

 There are more candles burned in Denmark than anywhere in the world, as they believe in turning bright lights off and replacing them with the glow of candle light. 

This makes so much sense to me and I have been practising Hygge for many years, without knowing!

Candles and well-being.

Candles are scientifically proven to soothe us.  They provide a glow which softens your environment and gives a relaxing feel. 

It is said that the soft illumination of the flame soothes your soul, as your sight catches the dimlight and sends straight to the brain to process.  We then start to relax, which in turn causes us to sleep better, have more energy and feel happier.

The smell of a scented candle also stimulates the part of our brain which is connected to memory and mood. Different essential oils have their own unique benefits which can enhance our psychological and physical well-being in many ways. Popular choices are oils to uplift mood or reduce anxiety.

Have you ever thought about what is in your candle?

Essential oils v Fragrance oils

Essential oils are derived from pure plant extracts whereas fragrance oils are a mix of unknown synthetic chemicals.  

Burning a synthetically scented candle means you are lighting a cocktail of chemicals and polluting the air, which can cause side effects for some people.

Paraffin wax v Soy Wax

Many candles are made using paraffin wax, which is made from petroleum.  That’s right, the same petroleum used to make oil and gas! Even some of the big names in candle making use paraffin wax in their candles.

Although evidence shows that candles made from paraffin wax are safe in small doses, I am now much more aware of the benefits of a non-toxic alternative, both to myself and the environment.

The Butterfly In Me Candles.

When I decided to sell candles I knew it was important to ensure they contained natural ingredients, my candles are therefore made from Soy Wax infused with essential oils.

Soy Wax helps to give candles a clean, long burn and essential oils allow for a more natural scent.

I also wanted to include a visible positive message and I chose the words “Dream big, shine bright” to remind people to think those energising thoughts.

My first candle contains Bergamot essential oil which is used in aromatherapy to relieve stress.

My natural and uplifting candle is perfect to get Hygge and is available for just £9.50, plus delivery.

Watch my page for more candles which are coming soon, containing different blends of essential oils with Reiki charged crystals.

More simple tips to practice self-care are to follow in next Saturday’s ‘6 Saturdays of self care’ …… for now I hope that you are feeling inspired to take some time out for yourself and your own self care.

Happy self care Saturday.

Angela Hanley

Founder of ‘The Butterfly in me’ 🧡🦋

Angela Hanley